In export I find the best way to do this is export each one separately so they each have their own column.  So export phoen number and select that you only want one and bring over only one type.  Then bring over phone number again (which can be tricky you'll need to highlight the top thing in your output and not have the phone number you just brought over highlighted.) and select that you only want 1 again and bring over a different type.

For HOH processing in export you need to go to the first tab and decide if you want to export both or just one.   If exporting spouse email then I would not choose to select both then you will get the same email addresses twice in your export.

In export you would go to:

• Spouse
• Address
• Preferred Address (or address processing)
• Phone
• etc.